When You Feel Stuck in the Now
David and I used to date long distance. He’d be miles away in Detroit and I in San Antonio. Most of our relationship was built over the course of long, late-night phone calls that sometimes stretched past 3 a.m. Those conversations became our currency—our way of learning one another, dreaming together, and holding on across the miles.
If I were describing my heart when his name lit up my phone? Giddy would be one word. Anxious and excited, two others. For a few years, that rhythm was sacred. It taught us patience, communication, and how to love faithfully even from afar.
But eventually, I started to sense what I can only describe as gentle growing pains. Like when a pair of shoes you’ve loved so much starts to feel just a bit snug—not because they’re bad, but because you’ve grown. That’s how that season of long distance began to feel—beautiful, meaningful, but ready to evolve.
I could feel God nudging me to pay attention—to honor what had been and to prepare for what was next. Thankfully, that season was changing. David was in Austin now, and the miles between us had shortened. But in my heart, I knew our relationship required more than proximity; it needed a new pace. It was time to reevaluate who we were and where we were going.
Soon after, we had a series of honest, sometimes hard conversations about our “next,” and those talks eventually led us to a future we both wanted. In July 2014, he asked me to be his wife—and it felt like I’d gained an entirely new closet of favorite shoes when I said yes.
I share this story because I know how precious certain seasons can feel at first, and then—when the newness wears off—you’re left wondering if you’re still in the right place.
And often, that restlessness isn’t a sign that something’s wrong. It’s usually an invitation from God to reevaluate—to pause, pray, and realign. We tend to blame ourselves for feeling stuck, when really, it might be time for reflection, not regret.
Can I tell you something? It doesn’t matter what season you’re in—every good thing needs reevaluation. Every chapter of your life deserves follow-up and reflection. It’s okay to feel unsettled even in the things you once prayed for.
What matters most is learning to:
1️⃣ Be honest about what you’re feeling.
2️⃣ Name exactly where you are right now.
3️⃣ Ask God for wisdom to discern what’s for now and what’s for next.
4️⃣ Take one small, intentional step toward realignment—something that bridges where you are and where He’s leading.
We often want the 30,000-foot view of our journey, but God—being the loving Father He is—knows that if He showed us everything, we’d try to skip the faith part. And faith is what keeps us close to Him. His grace carries the weight of knowing; ours is simply to trust and take the next right step.
So, for the season you’re in, friend, begin the reevaluation process. Ask yourself: What about this season brings me joy? What about it feels like it’s shifting? In what ways should I rest? And in what ways should I move?
Then make that reflection your roadmap—one small, faithful step at a time. You’ll be amazed at how your will, God’s grace, and your perspective begin to align. And soon enough, the season you once called “stuck” will become the very launching pad for your next season of wonder.
Always rooting for you,
-Bri Walker
